Dealing with a Difficult Co-Parent? What to Know About Parental Interference

At Jones Law Firm, PC, we know that co-parenting conflicts can be stressful and challenging, especially when dealing with a difficult co-parent.

Parental interference can make things even tougher, whether it’s intentional or not. Here, we’ll explain what parental interference is, its impact, and steps you can take if it’s affecting you.

What is Parental Interference?

Parental interference (sometimes called “custodial interference”), in the context of Colorado law, happens when one parent actively disrupts or limits the other parent’s relationship with their child.

This kind of interference can take many forms, from withholding visitation to speaking poorly about the other parent in front of the child. When it’s ongoing, interference can create a hostile environment and harm the child’s sense of stability and trust.

Types of Parental Interference

Parental interference generally falls into two main categories: direct and indirect.

Direct Interference

This is when one parent physically prevents the other from spending time with the child or disrupts scheduled visits. Examples include:

○       Refusing to return the child after visitation time

○       Cancelling scheduled visits without a good reason

○       Taking the child out of state without notifying the other parent

○       Physically blocking or hindering access to the child

Indirect Interference

Here, the interference doesn’t prevent physical visits but instead damages the relationship between the child and the other parent. Examples include:

○       Speaking negatively about the other parent in front of the child

○       Manipulating the child’s feelings towards the other parent

○       Discouraging communication between the child and the other parent

○       Using the child to gather information about the other parent’s personal life

If any of these behaviors sound familiar, it may be time to consider what steps can help protect your rights and maintain a healthy relationship with your child.

Legal Consequences of Parental Interference in Colorado

Colorado takes parental interference seriously, especially when it impacts the child. Courts are aware that prolonged or intense interference can harm a child’s mental health and disrupt family stability. If a parent is engaging in these behaviors, they may face a range of legal consequences, including:

Modification of Custody or Visitation Orders

Courts may alter the custody agreement to limit the interfering parent’s time with the child. This option can vary significantly, and should be discussed with an attorney.

Contempt of Court

After an evidentiary hearing, a parent found to be disobeying a court order, like a visitation schedule, can be held in contempt.

Criminal Charges

Parental interference can escalate into criminal territory if it involves kidnapping or keeping a child from their other parent without justification. However, the Courts will generally look for issues between co-parents to be addressed in the family or Civil court system.

Signs of a Difficult Co-Parent

You may be dealing with a difficult co-parent if you recognize behaviors such as:

●       Narcissistic or Controlling Tendencies: If the other parent tries to control every aspect of parenting or disregards your input, it may be a sign of difficulty.

●       Unwillingness to Compromise: A co-parent who rarely, if ever, agrees on important decisions or is inflexible during scheduling.

●       Manipulative or Hostile Behavior: If they manipulate the child’s feelings toward you or repeatedly make negative remarks in front of them, this behavior can strain your relationship with your child.

A difficult co-parent’s behavior can be emotionally exhausting, and it is important to acknowledge the limitations of your ability to change the behavior of the other parent. However, there are ways to respond that prioritize your well-being and your child’s.

How to Deal with a Difficult Co-Parent

Handling a challenging co-parent may require a mix of patience, clear boundaries, and legal know-how. Here are some strategies to consider:

Focus on the Children’s Best Interests

Make decisions based on what’s best for the child rather than what feels right in the moment. By keeping their needs at the forefront, you’re likely to feel more confident in your choices.

Establish Clear Communication Channels

Try using email or co-parenting apps that keep communication organized and documented. This way, there’s a clear record of your efforts to work together.

Stick to the Parenting Schedule

Consistency matters for kids, and sticking to the schedule can reduce the chance of disputes. Avoid any temptation to make impulsive changes unless it’s in the child’s best interest.

Avoid Negative Talk About the Other Parent

While it may be tempting to vent, avoid speaking negatively about the other parent in front of your child. This can create confusion and guilt, and it may lead them to feel they need to choose sides.

Consider Mediation or Counseling

A professional mediator or family counselor can help parents resolve disputes in a neutral setting. Mediation can provide strategies to communicate effectively, even if you’re not on good terms with your co-parent. This can be done prior to, or during the legal process.

Document Any Incidents of Interference

If interference becomes a recurring issue, keep detailed records of each incident. Documentation can be helpful if you need to show a pattern of behavior to the court.

Consult a Family Law Attorney

If you’ve tried everything and interference continues, speaking to a family law attorney can give you a better understanding of your rights. A lawyer can help you explore legal options, including establishing or modifying custody.

Facing Co-Parenting Challenges in Colorado? Jones Law Firm Can Help

If you’re dealing with a difficult co-parent and parental interference, know that you’re not alone. Jones Law Firm, PC, is committed to helping families find balance and support during challenging times. Our Denver divorce lawyers are here to guide you with compassionate counsel and a focus on what’s best for your family.

Call us today at (303) 799-8155 or visit our website to schedule a free consultation. Together, we can find a solution that allows you to focus on what matters most—your relationship with your child.