Divorcing a Narcissist in Colorado: How Jones Law Firm Empowers You to Protect Yourself and Your Family
When you finally realize your partner is a narcissist inflicting emotional abuse on you and your children, how do you escape safely? Divorcing a narcissist isn’t always easy, but you don’t have to go through it alone.
Colorado divorce attorney April D. Jones and the senior attorneys at Jones Law Firm, P.C., describe the path from identifying your spouse as a narcissist to finding the right divorce attorney to represent you in your divorce proceedings. Keep reading to learn more about safely divorcing a narcissist.
Ready to reclaim your peace of mind?
Reach out for a confidential consultation with our experienced Colorado divorce attorneys.
How Do You Know if You’re Married to a Narcissist?
You don’t need a formal diagnosis to determine if your spouse has narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Instead, know that American Psychiatric Association defines a narcissist as someone who has at least five of these traits:
- Holds an exaggerated sense of self-importance (entitlement, self-centeredness, exaggerated achievements)
- Preoccupied with fantasies of power, success, intelligence, or beauty
- Believes their talents are only recognizable to people of similar talent
- Seeks constant external validation
- Has expectations of favorable treatment
- Takes advantage of others to meet their needs
- Lacks empathy to recognize or understand others’ feelings
- Acts envious of others and paranoid of others’ perceived envy toward them
- Displays arrogance or grandiosity
In Colorado, emotional and psychological abuse—including coercive control, financial control, and intimidation—is recognized under domestic violence laws, even when there’s no physical violence. If these traits sound familiar, it’s not your fault—and you’re not alone.
Red Flags: Am I Married to a Narcissist?
- Do you feel like you’re always “walking on eggshells”?
- Has your spouse isolated you from friends or family?
- Are your finances tightly controlled or hidden from you?
- Do they twist facts or deny things you know happened?
If so, these are common signs you may be facing narcissistic abuse.
How Are Divorce Proceedings Different when Divorcing a Narcissist?
Many couples can divorce amicably or are willing to work through their issues to agree on the terms of their divorce. However, your narcissistic spouse will probably use every trick they used during your marriage during the divorce proceedings, including:
- Gaslighting
- Calling into question your mental health
- Trying to make friends and family believe that the divorce is your fault
- Lying to your children about you and the divorce
- Hiding income and assets during the financial disclosure process and discovery
- Attempting to exert control with threats, degradation, and emotional abuse
The court orders all couples going through divorce to attend mediation. If you have a narcissistic spouse, it is important to have legal counsel present at mediation to guarantee that any agreements reached are in your best interest.
If you are experiencing abuse from your spouse, the court could order that you only communicate through a civil communicator software, which filters abusive language in messages while storing a copy of the original message. If your spouse’s actions are serious enough, you may also need to file a civil protection order (restraining order) to protect yourself from undue contact with your narcissistic spouse.
When divorcing a narcissist, find a divorce attorney with a reputable family law firm to help you build a strong case for your divorce, child custody, child support, and spousal support (alimony).
Can a Divorce Lawyer Help You Protect Your Family when Divorcing a Narcissist?
Your experienced divorce attorney has seen hundreds of marriage dissolutions. They know firsthand the measures necessary to protect you and your children when divorcing a potentially manipulative, deceitful, abusive, controlling, and arrogant spouse. We help you:
- Serve the petition for divorce safely
- Separate your finances and uncover hidden assets
- Develop a strategy for child custody and support
- Move forward with confidence and peace of mind
Key Legal Challenges When Divorcing a Narcissist in Colorado
High-Conflict Divorce Dynamics
Divorcing a narcissist is the definition of a “high-conflict divorce.” These cases often involve:
- Repeated delays and non-cooperation
- Endless paperwork and frivolous court motions
- Attempts to manipulate the legal process or intimidate you
- Use of children or finances as bargaining chips
Our attorneys know how to recognize and counter these tactics. “Our job isn’t just to argue in court—it’s to be your advocate, your buffer, and your guide through the chaos,” says April D. Jones, our founding attorney.
Colorado Divorce Laws & Protections
Colorado is a no-fault divorce state. That means you don’t have to prove wrongdoing to end your marriage. This can actually work in your favor, as it prevents a narcissistic spouse from weaponizing blame in court.
Domestic Violence Protections:
Colorado law covers emotional and psychological abuse, not just physical harm. If you’re experiencing intimidation, threats, or manipulation, you may be eligible for a protection order (sometimes called a restraining order). Emergency orders can be granted the same day and may include:
- No-contact provisions
- Exclusive use of the marital home
Financial Safeguards:
Colorado requires both parties to make full financial disclosures (Rule 16.2). If you suspect hidden assets or income, our team can engage forensic accountants or use subpoenas to uncover the truth. Do not sign any separation agreement your spouse prepares without legal review.
Child Custody and Parenting Time
Colorado courts always prioritize the best interests of the child. If you’re worried about your children’s safety or emotional health, we can help you:
- Document concerning behaviors and communications
- Request a Child Legal Representative (court-appointed advocate for your child)
- Seek psychiatric evaluations if needed
- Develop a clear, enforceable parenting plan
We know how devastating parental alienation can be. “Protecting your relationship with your children is our top priority,” says one of our senior attorneys. “We fight for parenting plans that keep kids safe and supported—no matter how contentious the divorce gets.”
How Jones Law Firm Protects and Empowers Clients
Our Proven Approach to High-Conflict and Narcissist Divorce Cases
At Jones Law Firm, we don’t just handle divorces—we help people rebuild their lives. Our experience with high-conflict and narcissistic divorces means we’re prepared for every twist and turn. We take a multidisciplinary approach, collaborating with financial experts, mental health professionals, and, most importantly, you.
“When you’re up against a manipulative spouse, you need more than just a lawyer. You need a team that sees the whole picture and stands beside you every step of the way.” – April D. Jones
Building Your Legal and Emotional Safety Net
What you can do right now:
- Document everything: Keep detailed records of abuse, financial transactions, and all communications.
- Build your support team: This includes your attorney, a financial advisor, and a therapist or counselor.
- Use communication tools: Apps like OurFamilyWizard can help manage messages and keep a record of interactions.
- Prioritize self-care: Lean on friends, family, and support groups. Remember, self-care is not selfish—it’s survival.
Real Stories: How We’ve Helped Clients Overcome Narcissistic Abuse
One client told us, “I was terrified to leave. I thought I’d lose my children, my home, everything. But your team helped me find my strength and gave me the tools to stand up for myself.”
Another shared, “You didn’t just help me get divorced—you helped me find myself again.”
We’re proud to be part of these journeys. Every story reminds us why we do what we do.
Step-by-Step Guide: What to Do If You’re Divorcing a Narcissist in Colorado
Divorcing a narcissist is not just a legal journey—it’s an emotional and practical one, too. Here’s how to protect yourself and your children, and what to expect every step of the way.
Immediate Steps to Protect Yourself and Your Children
- Document abuse and manipulation: Save texts, emails, voicemails, and written notes. Keep a log of incidents and communications.
- Secure your finances: Open a separate bank account, gather financial records, and monitor your credit.
- Build your support system: Reach out to trusted friends, family, a therapist, or a support group.
- Consult an experienced attorney: Never sign documents prepared by your spouse without legal review.
- Request temporary or emergency protection orders: If you’re in danger, call 911 or your local authorities.
Preparation is your best weapon. The more organized and documented you are, the harder it is for manipulation to succeed.
The Legal Process: What to Expect at Each Stage
1. Consultation
We start by listening to your story, assessing your needs, and mapping out a personalized strategy for your situation.
2. Filing for Divorce
Your attorney will file the divorce petition and, if needed, any protection orders to ensure your safety and that of your children.
3. Temporary Orders
We’ll request short-term court orders to address housing, financial support, and child custody while the divorce is pending.
4. Discovery
Both parties exchange financial and personal information. Our team works diligently to uncover any hidden assets or income, using tools like subpoenas and forensic accountants when necessary.
5. Mediation
Colorado requires all parties to attend mediation to hopefully resolve issues outside of court. If you are able to fully resolve all issues before the mediation deadline, you do not need to attend mediation. Sometimes mediation is not appropriate, and for good reasons we can file a motion asking the court to waive the mediation requirement.
6. Trial
If settlement isn’t possible, we present your case to a judge, advocating fiercely for your best interests and your children’s well-being.
At every step, Jones Law Firm is by your side—helping you avoid pitfalls, counter manipulative tactics, and move forward with confidence.
Protecting Your Children and Co-Parenting After Divorce
- Parenting Plans: We help you create plans that minimize contact and conflict, focusing on your child’s well-being.
- Parallel Parenting: When cooperation isn’t possible, we recommend structured communication and clear boundaries.
- Supporting Your Child: Encourage open dialogue, validate their feelings, and consider counseling or therapy for them.
- Moving On: Healing takes time, but with the right support, you and your children can thrive.
Frequently Asked Questions About Divorcing a Narcissist in Colorado
Document every incident—save texts, emails, and notes. Witness statements and professional evaluations can also help.
The court’s primary concern is your child’s best interests. If there’s evidence of abuse or manipulation, sole or primary custody may be possible. If anything, we can fight for as limited time as possible or even supervised parenting time.
Keep detailed records, involve your attorney, and request a guardian ad litem if needed.
Monitor your accounts, make sure your spouse is not moving funds, monitor your credit, and ensure all assets are disclosed during the divorce process.
Therapists, support groups, and online communities can offer invaluable help. We’re happy to provide referrals tailored to your needs.
Life After Divorcing a Narcissist: Healing, Empowerment, and Moving Forward
Leaving a narcissistic relationship can feel like breaking free from a cage. It’s normal to feel a mix of relief, grief, and uncertainty. Healing is a journey, not a destination.
- Self-Care: Prioritize your mental and physical health. Therapy, exercise, and time with loved ones can help you rebuild.
- Rebuilding Confidence: Celebrate small wins and recognize your strength.
- Co-Parenting: Set boundaries, communicate only when necessary, and focus on your child’s needs.
- Starting Anew: Whether it’s a new hobby, a new home, or simply rediscovering yourself, embrace this fresh start.
“You are stronger than you know. Every step you take is a step toward freedom and peace.” – Jones Law Firm Leadership
Why Choose Jones Law Firm? Experience, Compassion, and Results
At Jones Law Firm, we understand what you’re going through—because we’ve helped so many others walk this path before you. Our team is dedicated to:
- Protecting your safety and your children’s well-being
- Fighting for fair financial and custody outcomes
- Providing honest, compassionate guidance every step of the way
We believe in empowering our clients. “Our clients are more than just case numbers—they’re people with stories, fears, and hopes. We’re here to help you write your next chapter.”
Ready to take the next step?
Schedule your confidential consultation today—your safety and future matter.
Contact an Experienced Colorado Divorce Attorney
For help divorcing a narcissist in Colorado, contact us at Jones Law Firm, P.C. We’ll work with you to develop an action plan. Call us at 720-927-9840 or contact us online to schedule a free consultation.
Your journey to safety and peace of mind starts here.
Contact Jones Law Firm, P.C.
– Phone: 720-927-9840
– Email: info@apriljoneslaw.com
– Office Locations: Greenwood Village, Denver, Aurora (by appointment only)
We offer confidential, no-pressure consultations. If you’re ready to take control of your future, reach out today.
Final Thoughts
You deserve support and a path forward. At Jones Law Firm, we’re not just your legal advocates—we’re your partners in reclaiming your life. We bring deep experience, unwavering compassion, and proven strategies to every case. If you’re ready to move forward, we’re ready to help.
This guide is for informational purposes only and does not constitute legal advice. For specific advice on your situation, please schedule a consultation with our team.
